My very first PTSA auction meeting for our school we were talking about procuring items at different establishments and one of the women that co-chairs the committee pointed to me and asked, "Where do you buy your coffee on your way to work every morning?"
I looked at her and said, "I don't drink coffee and I don't go to work." She looked at me like she was appalled.
"So what do you do all day?"
"I'm a stay at home mom with a 6 year old, 3 year old, and 7 month old."
"So you have a lot of time on your hands."
Statement. Not a question. Just assumed that because I'm not working outside the home that I'm also not working INSIDE it either.
EXCUSE ME?! I work just as hard as a "working" mother only I don't get paid. I am the very best wife and mother that I know how to be. What I am doing now IS what I wanted to do when I grew up. And I do it really, really well. (That may sound like bragging, but it's not.) That does not make me uninteresting or boring. I have interests outside of what I "do" all day. And when I have free time (which doesn't happen all that often) I pursue those interests. I work hard at all the things that come last for "working" mothers; keeping my home, yard, laundry, dishes, children, spouse, and myself ready for what life throws at us.
And I'm busy. SO FETCHIN' BUSY. So busy that you may have noticed that blogging has begun to take a back seat. Even though I love blogging.
And I have stress. I don't need a "job" to have that.
And I'm a little bit annoyed.
Can you tell?
Could this post have any more "quotation marks"?
So, Bloggerville, what do YOU think? Am I overreacting? It's been known to happen. Or are you with me?
10.02.2008
Used To Be The Appalling Part Was That I Didn't Drink Coffee...
Posted by Valerie at 12:38 PM
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Does this woman have kids?! Where does she get off thinking that because she 'works' outside the home she has less time/more stress than those of us who 'work' inside the home. Whether that statement is true or not doesn't matter. It is a matter of respect. I'll respect your choices if you'll respect mine. I would be totally irritated if I was you!
BTW when do you need the stuff for the auction?
Don't let me get ahold of this chick!
wow. I don't even know what to say because of the disgust I'm feeling toward this person I don't even know. Words escape me.... I'm curious about what your response was.... the only thing I could think of myself doing in that situation would be a look of total shock and maybe asking her if she was kidding. She was, right? wow.
If only I had that time she speaks of... just a few more hours to my day maybe?
Yes, all that free time. I used mine to go back to school. And now people (and by "people" I mean "18-22 year old students who have no kids/husband/responsibility") want to know why I am only going to school at the full time minimum instead of taking 18 credits each semester. It's not like I have a "job" or anything.
Um, because I have KIDS?! Because I don't want to get the crappy grades you slide by with? Because I like my house to be clean and since I have been poisoned, I mean spoiled, by Aiden and now he's working some of that actually falls to me to do? hmmm...
"A lot of time on your hands"?
Did you laugh out loud?
You should have mentioned to her that you work the equivalent of two full time jobs, (Plus another on the weekend) without the luxury of a 15 minute break every two hours, and a lunch break.
I've always said that my "free time" is the hours between 2:00a.m. and 5:00 a.m. when I'm not really doing anything.
Ok now this miffs me off! When ever I told someone that I was a SAHM/HSM (stay at home mom / homeschooling mom) they looked at me like *WOW and you like this*. I loved it. I am a tad bit ornery (don't ask Husby how ornery I really am ;) and I loved to say that my Husby makes a very good living so that I did not have to work. I worked hard to raise a Dotter that functions very well in society and is a wonderful individual to which I know comes from having that time with me to teach her. We have a nice home and a good life. If a woman chooses to work I say more power to her in her peresonal hoices. My personal opinion and I will say this-- I think opinions are like butts. Everyone has one, they smell and are best kept to yourself-but again my opinion is this. If you have kids stay home and raise them. Now I realize there are times when for what ever reason this is not possible and I give props to those Moms who do WHAT THEY HAVE to do for their babies and families. Go MOMS and God bless you! But if you can stay home -that is where you should be.
If we were to add up our hours and our overtime hours which are a daily thing and gas mileage ~~ well I would need to be paid 3X what Husby makes. Even though Dotter is grown now, I have her son, my Sweet Cakes all day. So then that would make double time for me if it was a "paying job"!!!! Ok I am getting off my soap box now other wise I can go on forever on this one. I am still Miffed off too!
Val next time you see her walking by ~~ stretch and put your foot out while yawning. OOppsies. Did you trip? LOL
First of all, we do a FREAKIN? amount of work and we go ALL DAY LONG WITHOUT COFFEE! That's more than she can say.
I HATE people with their narrow minded opinion.
That is exactly what most people think.
Can I tell you. I NEVER turn the TV on, I never sit on the couch and eat BON, BON's, in fact, I rarely ever sit down at all. It takes all the will power in me to even take time out of my busy schedule to shower.
You better never point this lady out to me. I would then have to follow her down a dark alley and "take care of business," if you know what I mean. KA_POW!
Maybe you should have B****-slapped her.
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