This was a very busy, very interesting weekend. Without going into a lot of detail, my ex-husband told me that he had received some very crushing news regarding his academic career. As he laid it all out for me I had a brief moment of "oh, crap" followed by a flood of relief when I realized that his crushing news doesn't actually affect me. His crushing news affects him, and him alone. I do not take any pleasure in the fact that he has this problem to deal with, only in the fact that I don't have to deal with it. Now if you think that's petty, please keep in mind that it was his choice to divide our life paths, not mine. Don't get me wrong, I am absolutely thrilled with the way that my life has gone since we divorced, but I let that be his call.

Since that conversation I have thought about the different paths that we have each taken since we decided to divorce. I went back to school and will be graduating in less than a month with highest honors; I met and married a man who loves me for who I am; I have a beautiful home and have doubled the number of children I have to love; and to top it all off, I get to continue to be a stay at home mom after I graduate (which is what I want to do). I think that it's clear that I have been truly blessed.

I don't want to run my ex down so suffice it to say that his life has not taken a similar path. As I thought of all these things (including the ones about him I haven't shared) I kept having the chorus to a Garth Brooks song run through my mind...

She’s gonna make it
And he never will
He’s at the foot of the mountain
And she’s over that hill
He’s sinkin’ at sea
And her sails are filled
She’s gonna make it
And he never will

If you know this song, the lyrics to the verses don't apply, just the chorus. I don't wish bad things for my ex. In fact I wish that he would straighten out the multiple areas of his life that need straightening. But he has his agency and is choosing to exercise it in different ways than I have. There's really not any more to say than that.