Oh Wise People of the Internet, I need your help...
I am having an issue with one of my kids and lying. It's been going on for a while and it's driving me crazy. We have tried taking away video games, explaining that no one can trust anything that he says, and talking about it from a religious perspective, among other things. The things he lies about vary but none are of great consequence....which I think is what drives me nuts. It's not about self preservation and getting out of trouble, it seems to simply be laziness...it's easier to tell me that he did reading minutes and have me sign off on it than to actually do the reading. And this is a kid who loves to read!
So. What do I do? Any ideas are welcome...this is beyond getting old.
5.08.2011
Advice please...
Posted by Valerie at 6:36 PM
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Is it your 6 year old? My 6yr old is having the same issues! But in addition to lying he has been stealing stupid crap too, it is bugging me to no end, sorry I have no suggestions we're trying to figure it out too.
We've tried a few things with lying.
One...not making a big deal of it. Sometimes it's the reaction they are looking for.
Instead saying things like..."do you want to start over and tell me the truth this time?" "Are you sure you're telling me the truth? because if find out differently there WILL be consequences." Giving them a chance to redeem themselves before freaking out.
I think it's also important to not give them a label of a "liar." I've read over and over that kids will become what you tell them they are. We TRY (don't ALWAYS get it right) to use "not telling the truth" instead of "lie."
We've also tried vinegar. Just a dab on your finger and a swipe in their mouth. Very useful for kids who just don't seem to be catching on. Makes them catch on REALLY fast.
Annie got really mad when we stopped believing her when she said anything, even when we knew it was true, we'd say "well, I don't know if I can believe you since you tell lies." We used that on all the kids and it was pretty effective.
It got even more effective when I would ask her little sister to tell me and then believe her because she hasn't lied to me.
Also, we make sure to remind them, when it IS about self-preservation, that the punishment is always worse if they lie than if they just get punished for the "crime".
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